“Don’t unity candles have to stay lit forever for them to actually serve the intended purpose?”
Ok, that’s not it. I’ve just always wondered about that.
They are beautiful, fun cry-fests for all, shared around the bond between a loving couple and a mutual hatred for the wedding planner.
“No Samantha! We don’t need to practice WALKING again. I’ve been doing it since I was four (I was a late bloomer)”
We love weddings. I’ll admit, every wedding I do there is a fair to likely chance I’m going to start crying the minute the bride and groom make eye contact for first time. Although, as a Dave Ramsay fan, a part of me dies inside when I see flowers that cost more than my annual gas budget; I really do love the spectacle of it all.
But there is one thing that bothers me. One thing that you will hear at EVERY wedding…heck, you’ve probably said it. Every time I hear someone say it I want to make farting noises into my elbow and blame it on the bride.
I don’t. I just want to. Don’t judge me.
Here it is:
“I’m so happy for you on your special day”
PPPFfffttttpppllllhhhhh…..”um, she did it”
Ok. I get it. It comes from a really nice place. A place of celebration and shared happiness. It also comes from our culture and our worship of the wedding above the marriage and the bride above the groom (ducks and hides).
It’s not your special day. It’s not about you…
Well, not completely. It can be special for you. It obviously IS! It’s special for the bride, the groom, the parents, and everyone in attendance. It can be special.
It’s just not “ours”
“For from him and through Him and to Him are all things. To Him be the glory forever. Amen” Romans 11:36
Everything, even marriage, is designed for God. The wedding isn’t our special day. It’s so much bigger than that…