The 5 Love Languages, or ways people give/receive love, as outlined by author Gary Chapman are: quality time, giving of gifts, words of affirmation/encouragement, physical touch, & acts of service. I’m a time guy, and I’m definitely not a touch guy. It’s not right or wrong. It’s just my language. That’s how these love languages work. Everyone shows love differently & one way isn’t better or worse than another.
But there are other ways to communicate love. Languages that absolutely everyone must speak if they truly love the other person. They don’t come naturally, but like a foreign language they must be learned, practiced and consistently applied in order to master the language.
3 Foreign Love Languages
- Love does not accept you (as you are) – Love believes in a better you. They take responsibility for your spiritual health. The one who cares is the one sees you as you can be rather than the person you currently are. That brings me to #2…
- Love tells you what you do not want to hear – “Better is an open rebuke than hidden love” (Proverbs 27:5). Love is not silent in the face of sin. It doesn’t allow a person to continue in their brokenness. A correction may be hard to hear, but not hearing it is evidence of a lack of love.
- Love endures conflict – Love doesn’t run. It doesn’t stonewall. Conflict isn’t offensive, but rather a necessary part of healing and growth. A relationship that never endures conflict is shallow.
Gifts, touch, quality time…these things are preferential. If I don’t hug you it just means I’m not touchy. But if I fail to push you to a better version of yourself, however, well that means I don’t love you.